Ecumenical Patriarch: Cohabitation of Same-Sex Couples Contrary to Gospel

pat-bartholomew-4Source: Greek Orthodox Archdiocese (via OCN.Net).

The following is an excerpt from the Message of His All Holiness Ecumenical Patriarch Bartholomew to the 42nd Clergy-Laity Congress in Philadelphia, delivered July 7, 2014

Our Lord, through His first miracle in Canaan, Galilee, blessed the holy sacrament of marriage, in which two persons of different sexes come together to unite into one body: and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is a profound one and I’m saying that it refers to Christ and the Church (Eph. 5: 31-33).

Through this union of the two persons male and female in Christ the family becomes a dwelling of Christ, from Whom every family in heaven and on earth is named (Eph. 3: 15-16); every family, i.e. every genealogical origin and presence on earth of which the family is the cell from Adam and Eve, through which life goes on, the earth is inherited, and the heavenly kingdom granted to the man who has been created in the image and likeness of God.

Human life is certainly a serious matter, a spiritual battle and a course toward a goal that is heaven. Marriage is the most critical and most important vehicle of this course; the marriage in Christ and the marital bond, the undefiled marriage (Heb. 13, 4), the profound sacrament (Eph. 5, 32). It has also been shown that the success or failure, the progress or destruction in spiritual life begins with the marriage.

We all realize that in the society we live, the God-sanctified institution of the family suffers serious blows from the prevalent climate of contemporary blissfulness, which does not favor the total offering of one spouse to the other and of both to the children, but nurtures fleeting, personal relationships aiming at the release from the duties of the communion of the marriage and the egotistical self-gratification of man, rendering man essentially empty, miserable and isolated, deprived of the blessing of God.

The institution of Marriage and the Orthodox Christian family is foremost a course of love, secondly a course of common spirit and common exercise, thirdly a course of creativity, common creativity and continuation of life, and, fourthly a common course toward heaven, toward the heavenly kingdom. It is a calling of God, it is a joining of diversity that leads to perfection, and, therefore, the spouses become also joint heirs of the grace of life (1 Peter 3, 7).

Taking into account the Patristic saying according to which nothing holds together life as the love between man and woman, the living together of people of the same sex as couples is not an accepted practice within the bosom of our Orthodox Church, which preserves undefiled the wholesomeness of the evangelical truth. It is irreconcilable with the commandments of God and contrary to the spirit of the Gospel. As deacons of the Church and her salvific work, we ought to keep always a clear and unambiguous stance on this subject that resurfaces constantly, because only where there is husband and wife and children and concord and people connected by the bonds of virtue there, in their midst, is Christ, says St. John Chrysostom (On Genesis, Homily 6, P.G. 54, 616).

Mother Church who is always affectionate toward all her children accepts and calls everyone to salvation, the devout and the sinners, the healthy and the sick, the strong and the weak. Not only does she accept everyone but also gives everyone the opportunity at a moment of time to repent and be saved. The Church, regardless of the passing of so many centuries, condemns and reproaches sin and does not change her stance against it, as against something allegedly natural but only slightly different.

Sacrament, then of the Church and norm of the presence of God is the marriage at which man and woman come together and become one. If the two do not become one they cannot produce many … The child is a bridge (St. John Chrysostom, Memorandum to the Letter to the Colossians, Homily 12, P.G. 62, 386-387).

It is necessary, at all costs, the struggle for the preservation of the traditional Orthodox institution of family with the cultivation of marital fidelity, the treating of one spouse by the other as a person created in the image and likeness of God, the togetherness and the unity, the following of the same path by showing obedience preferably to the same spiritual father, and mostly the constant self-denial and sacrifice, without which sanctification and spiritual progress of the family will be unattainable.

We know, brothers, sisters and children, that you live in a materialistic society that is continually distancing itself from the Orthodox morals and traditions and not favoring the traditional life; a society where faith and devotion to the principles of our Orthodox tradition often seems or is deemed by some as something anachronistic and foreign to the demands of the modern social life. It is here where the responsibility of both the shepherd and the flock lies. You, our spiritual children in America, on free will and choice and after much toil you possess the treasure of the genuine apostolic faith and tradition, of the truth and genuineness in the Grace of the sacraments, the treasure of tradition and family, despite environmental and societal limitations, as pure as the Mother Church of Constantinople has preserved it throughout the centuries. Thus, by lifting the cross of life may you offer witness of the truth of Christ, from Whom every family in heaven and on earth is named.

We, therefore, urge all of you brotherly and paternally from the Mother Church: Continue, brothers, sisters and children, Orthodox faithful of the Holy Archdiocese of America, to always be sanctified and remain vigilant, as your tireless spiritual father, Archbishop Demetrios of America, does and teaches; the shepherds in their pastoral ministry to you, the priests in their priestly vocation, the preachers in the preaching of the divine words, the lay people in the diakonia, the spouses toward their families, the ladies of the Philoptochos Society in God-loving philanthropy, everyone where his calling is. Rest assured always that our Modesty, your Patriarch keeps you close to his heart and prays continuously for your illumination, well being, success and salvation, and also for the stability and progress of the Holy Archdiocese of America, for which we take pride in the Lord.


  1. Hieromonk Mark says

    It is good to see a clear teaching coming from the Ecumenical Throne about the incompatibility of same-sex cohabitation (I assume, in the sense of including sexual intimacy) with Christian moral principles. But it is a restatement of what has been stated many times before, without going beyond a certain point of ‘thou shalt not’ to a constructive assertion of a positive, restorative and regenerative response to the problem that no one wants to talk about or address in clear, unambiguous, realistic and honest terms. As long as the erroneous assumptions about same sex or homoerotic attraction are tacitly accepted without challenge (e.g., ‘born that way; can’t change’ or that it is an essential, unalterable part of the personality, ‘who I really am’ — rather than ‘what I’m feeling or doing’), there is very little possibility of forward movement toward a solution to the impasse that those assumptions have led to, along with the liberal/progressive (and ultimately, nihilistic) mind set that denies the reality of objective truth and meaning in the cosmos (‘everyone is entitled to his own opinion’ as a valid means of defining reality).

    There is a path to healing the emotional wounds and injuries people have suffered in their lives, especially in childhood, that contribute to the development of homoerotic attraction (among other maladaptive responses to emotional wounding), which is an essentially dysfunctional reparative strategy, seeking a way to meet the unfulfilled pre-adult, non-sexual emotional needs of the wounded and hurting inner child.

    Homoeroticism is clearly a dysfunctional expression of natural human sexuality. That is obvious to anyone that can look with open eyes and an open mind at the consequences of homoerotic behaviour and the so-called ‘gay lifestyle’, which are characterised by a wide range of negative consequences, manifest not only in the lives of gay-identified people in what are described as ‘homophobic’ societies but equally in the lives of such people living in so called ‘gay friendly’ societies. These consequences include higher than normal rates of mental illness, alcohol and drug abuse, interpersonal and domestic violence, suicide, social dysfunction and isolation, depression, promiscuity, physical illness, including rampant sexually transmitted diseases, difficulty in sustaining stable long term emotional connections with others, etc. About the only ‘life style’ problem that is less common among gay-identified men, when compared to the general population, is obesity.

    People experiencing homoerotic feelings and acting out those feelings, in order to attain a healthier and more mature experience of their adult sexuality, need emotional support and encouragement to identify the emotional needs underlying their feelings and behaviour. It’s not just enough to say, ‘don’t do that; it’s bad!’ Healing is accomplished when Christians actively love and emotionally nurture each other, tending to each others emotional wounds and brokenness, of what ever sort and however manifested, whether it be same sex attraction, depression, substance abuse, uncontrolled anger, over-eating, emotional isolation, destructive shame or guilt, interpersonal conflict, irritability or what ever passions people are experiencing. ‘The Church is not a country club for saints; it is a hospital for sinners’, as the saying goes.

    Jesus said of himself that He is the Way, the Truth and the Life. The moral teaching of the Church must be our guide. There are no excuses nor multiple, alternate moral standards for one or another class or group of people. We are all held to the same standard of life and conduct because it is salvific. But simply to expect people to be able to turn from hurtful and destructive passions and reorder their lives according to Christian principles without providing for the healing of the spiritual and emotional wounds and traumas they have experienced and which have lead them to compensitory dysfunctional behaviour is unrealistic and doomed to failure. We Christians must recognise that all the life of the Church, the ascetic tradition, the spiritual practices, the liturgical worship and the dogmatic and moral truths we are called upon to believe and live by, are the therapeutic method to the restoration of our eternal spiritual life of growth in perfection and communion with God, to which all mankind is called.

    One of the hymns from the first week of the Great Fast contains the line, ‘O pure Theotokos, heal the wounds of my soul, the passions of my heart and the delusions of my mind.’ It is a concise yet very profound statement that offers us all much to ponder.

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